When Dad is Smarter…#makatichronicles

Meanwhile, it’s Saturday morning…

Back in Uyoma, mum is fixing tea in the kitchen. Normally this is a lazy day where everybody wakes up at leisure. You see, we had many cows and this forces the boys of the family to rise up at break of dawn to catch up with the milking.

My senior, Owanoh Francis has taken charge of milking this time.  Manuar is an expert; his turns always deliver more milk. He is very articulate for the entire process up to the end. He perfectly times the breaks (what we call ‘ajieke’) so accurately that the calf doesn’t suck all the milk. This is the fourth cow, three more to go, Frank is patient.

Back at the main house, Berita Atieno is busy preparing to report to school for the Saturday tuition, she has bathed, has perfectly applied that oil and is now shinier than Dumu Zaz. Bera wetu loves water and mum always complained about the time she takes to bathe…girls take long to shower anyway.

Far away, my other senior Owanoh Remmy Elias is tethering the goats. He is almost done. Am hungry and since am still young, love is in the air and possibility of my wishes being granted are so high so I alert mum that we should buy bread today for breakfast. All this time, I have been near the three stones where tea is being prepared, roasting maize, keenly turning the sides so it doesn’t burn. Am observing too, at mum’s excellent culinary skills where she only scoops one handful of sugar, a table spoonful of tea leaves and that’s enough for the whole family.

Then there is dad. He has no errands or a planned schedule today so he decides this is the best day to fix his bike.  In no minute, he turns it upside down. Saddle on the ground, break lever and shift are dismantled, chain and crankset are loosened, he is now unscrewing the skewer to fix some broken spokes and probably check on the fork as well. At this point, I innocently ask mum again if she can signal dad to buy bread, at least for me. The hot brands this time were Elliots, Sunblest and United, which came in two variants, a yellow sweeter version and a white type which came in slices. Mum sends Elias to deliver my plea to dad. Elias was athletic, well built, great physique, you know… So in case there was luck, he could run to Pap Kodero market both ways without stopping unless he forgot what he was sent if they are more than five items

Elias: Mama kwayoni imiya pes makati (mum is requesting if you could give me money to go and buy bread)

Dad: Mabati…!Mabati otimre nade? (Iron sheets! What has happened to them?)

Elias: Makati baba, miya pes makati (No dad, bread, money for bread…)

All this time, am strategically standing at the door so that should be feel generous enough, he has the liberty to send me into his pocket and get that money since his hands were dirty with brake fluid oil.

‘Can’t you see am fixing the bicycle’

We ate sweet potatoes with tea that morning….374646_3111866562142_1612648044_n


Daily Musings of Nairobi City Life

Meanwhile, back in the city, I left the office in good time to go home. I get to the stage and as usual, I find a large group of other commuters waiting patiently albeit nervously. There are a few mathrees; three maybe four and Kama can be heard shouting, ‘Raonda Seventy, Raonda Seventy fifte, GM Cabanas …’ x100. In the mix too, Tush wails, ‘Imara, Imara, faster bradhe kuna karao mbele…kuando, kuando (whatever that means)’ I hope into the Embassava Sacco minibus and sit infront with the driver. More mixed  sounds ‘fifte,fifte, seventi, raonda, cabanas and GM’ still engulf the air and moments later, Kama signals the driver and says ‘mrefu gari iko krom tothie mani…’ He hands Ksh100 to Gogo and Ken to share for their service in helping to call commuters into the minibus. We are off.

A short distance still on Mombasa Road, Mrefu the driver notices there could be heavy traffic ahead. He decides to take Kapiti Road irrespective of those who had planned to alight at Belle Vue or Aitel stage. We navigate through Sore Road, through to Plainsview then back to Likoni Road. All this time, the traffic jam seemed like a seven minutes thing and by the time we hit Likoni road (20-25mins later), from a distance we could see vehicles moving pretty fast on the main highway and since we are approaching from the feeder service lane, we have to careful wait and enter only when the route is clear. We rejoin Mombasa Road highway. Panari, Standard Group Ltd, Sameer Business Park,  General Motors and finally we are at Cabanas.

Mrefu instead chooses again to use Eastern By-Pass through the express way, this means the passengers to be dropped at Kobil Stage will have to balance well to cross the trench as there is no drop off point, the mentality here is that he will have to hide under the cover of heavy traffic jam and illegally stop for people to alight. The hawk-eyed Kama spots traffic police officers strategically standing opposite Bollore Africa warehouse and this spells bad news for commuters who had envisioned to alight at Co-operative, Kitindo and Transami stages in that order so in a split second, he alerts Mrefu and makes the final decision and says ‘kuna sanse(cops/police) pande yangu, oya stage ingine ni Taj Mall tukirudi, wa Kitindo, Co-operative and Transami wote washuke hapa na jam’’ The mathree is leaning on the left, am uncomfortable and since naenda mwisho(Taj Mall) I decide not to alight.

Ladies hold hands to cross, men jump over the trench and we continue. This means we will have to proceed up to Saku Business Park then turn at Kirinyaga Construction site warehouse and head back to Taj Mall underpass. I have wasted much time already, not my fault so I take out my phone and plug in my ear piece to listen to some Indian music and some mellow blues to clear my head. At Taj Mall, it’s another gridlock and since SynoHydro Tianjin crew are still constructing the road, I opt to walk since it would make me an extraordinary idiot boarding another vehicle to Fedha Stage. As I walk, my mind is cleared up, I breathe fresh evening air and it clicks in my brain and mandazi craving kicks in. I smile at the thought and think of Nancy Owande. This lady can perfectly cook mandas praboro in a very short time. So I call this lost gem but no one picks… I later concluded that she was probably looking for some kachumbari, bhajia or maybe she went to buy crisps ama she was humming some English SDA hymns and the phone was on silent mode and far away or maybe eating ugali but then unga prices are up there so most likely she was doing something else.  Anyway, since I had extra bonus call minutes thanks to Safaricom, I decide to check on my senior, his Royal Toughness Owanoh Remmy Elias, to see how he is doing, the kids, everything. Again, the dude is away, not picking. Maybe he went to chase something, someone in the plains of Kajiado who had refused to pay for services.

Elias is designer and a master fabricator, show him any design you need made of steel and he will carefully and articulately make it for you and deliver if you want…doors, windows, beds, gates, access barrier, bull bars, chairs, burglarproof doors, curtain rods, hino shelves, everything. All at a good price. He is the man. I get into Tumaini Supermaket, head to my favourite milk section to buy mala and guess what….Yes, guessed right! Mala Onge! Nil! Nothing! Hakuna!

Am almost home now and as a last dash of luck, I decided to visit my namesake, Yours Truly Alex Mkala at his beauty parlor. He has a big couch, strategically placed near the entrance for tired people like me. This fella knows everything mail grooming. So I come in and luckily, I was the only customer so will enjoy all the services, without any pressure.

Alecky says, ‘karibu mwanaume, umepotea sana…’ I say ‘sio sana mtu wangu, ni shughulu tu za hapakule, nikihama pia nitakushow lakini mimi bado niko area kama bacteria ya malaria. Hapa hapa tu, siendi popote’ Alecky knows my hairstyle so I take the seat, he wraps the hairdressing gown around me and few minutes into the haircut am in another level. So relaxed and I doze off. So nice is the hair cut that am carried away kumbe Alex has been telling me a story. I woke up when he began the warm-towel-chemical session. Mr Mkala is the best, I smell nice and look handsome so I pay and thank him. We are both happy….And then before I go further, Nams sends me that sweet SMS then tops it up with good night wish.

Day made, I can as well miss that supper….

25 Of The Most Thought Provoking Carl Jung Quotes

1. There is no coming to consciousness without pain.

2. The shoe that fits one person pinches another; there is no recipe for living that suits all cases.

3. The word ‘happiness’ would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness.

4. In all chaos there is a cosmos, in all disorder a secret order.

5. The healthy man does not torture others – generally it is the tortured who turn into torturers.

6. A man who has not passed through the inferno of his passions has never overcome them.

7. It is a fact that cannot be denied: the wickedness of others becomes our own wickedness because it kindles something evil in our own hearts.

8. Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.

9. Neurosis is always a substitute for legitimate suffering.

10. It all depends on how we look at things, and not how they are in themselves.

11. Mistakes are, after all, the foundations of truth, and if a man does not know what a thing is, it is at least an increase in knowledge if he knows what it is not.

12. The collective unconscious consists of the sum of the instincts and their correlates, the archetypes. Just as everybody possesses instincts, so he also possesses a stock of archetypal images.

13. Dreams are the guiding words of the soul. Why should I henceforth not love my dreams and not make their riddling images into objects of my daily consideration?

14. The greatest and most important problems of life are all fundamentally insoluble. They can never be solved but only outgrown.

15. Shrinking away from death is something unhealthy and abnormal which robs the second half of life of its purpose.

16. For a young person, it is almost a sin, or at least a danger, to be too preoccupied with himself; but for the ageing person, it is a duty and a necessity to devote serious attention to himself

17. Understanding does not cure evil, but it is a definite help, inasmuch as one can cope with a comprehensible darkness.

18. Our heart glows, and secret unrest gnaws at the root of our being. Dealing with the unconscious has become a question of life for us.

19. All the works of man have their origin in creative fantasy. What right have we then to depreciate imagination.

20. Often the hands will solve a mystery that the intellect has struggled with in vain.

21. Everyone knows nowadays that people ‘have complexes’. What is not so well known, though far more important theoretically, is that complexes can have us.

22. Man’s task is to become conscious of the contents that press upward from the unconscious.

23. Show me a sane man and I will cure him for you.

24. Who has fully realized that history is not contained in thick books but lives in our very blood?

25. If one does not understand a person, one tends to regard him as a fool.

CRISIS IN THE GREAT LAKES 2: Is Tanzania South Africa’s Trojan Horse? And Why Did Mandela Like Kagame But Zuma Doesn’t?


THE TWISTS AND TURNS  in the story of how Rwanda, Tanzania and Uganda have tangled and untangled over the last 35 years to create both the current face-off between Kigali and Dar es Salaam, and the crisis in eastern Democratic Republic of Congo today as reported in CRISIS IN THE GREAT LAKES 1: For Rwanda Its Back To 1996…And For Tanzania Its Back To Uganda 1982 were only beginning.

We need to look south for a moment.In 1994 Nelson Mandela became president of a free and democratic South Africa, and the African National Congress (ANC) took power.

In the many years before Mozambique gained independence from the Portuguese in 1974 after a long liberation war, the armed wing of ANC, Umkhonto we Sizwe (“Spear of the Nation”), like several other Southern African resistance movements, was based in Tanzania. Tanzania paid a dear price in endless raids by…

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The Story Behind Your Date of Birth


Hey this is really true and see it will work for you too

If U were born on the 1st, 10th, 19th, 28th of any month U r number 1….

If U were born on the 2nd, 11th, 20th, 29th of any month then U r number 2…

If U were born on the 3rd, 12th, 21st, 30th of any month then U r number 3…

If U were born on the 4th, 13th, 22nd, 31st of any month then U r number 4…

If U were born on the 5th, 14th, 23rd of any month then U r number 5…

If U were born on the 6th, 15th, 24th of any month then U r number 6…

If U were born on the 7th, 16th, 25th of any month then U r number 7…

If U were born on the 8th,17th,26th of any month then U r number 8…

If U were born on the 9th,18th,27th of any month then U r number 9…

Number 1

You are smart, straight talking, funny, stubborn, hardworking, honest,Jealous on competing basis, kind hearted, angry, friendly, authorities, Famous person… always want to be and regarded as first on people position, they are often like to be independent, will never be under others, self confident people!

You are most likely to fall in love in the younger age, but will get marry when you mature! You are likely to have problems with people who have opposite views
And you are most likely to take revenge over your enemies in a long time basis. You are a spender, but you will have a good profession in the future.

If you are guy you will be very popular that everybody will have mental attraction and respect at you. You can go anywhere from the local shop to the heart of the parliament because you are positive and well talented in numerous issues!! But in your life you will always have some people who will work hard to bring you & your name down. This is undercover!! Because of your smart behavior you will be hated by some people too…

Your family life is very cool, you will have a very nice partner & wonderful children… You are pioneer, independent & original…

Your best match is 4,6,8 good match is 3,5,7 !!!

note: if you don’t share bad luck for 10 years it true please don’t ignore

Number 2

No matter what, you will be loved by every one because your ruler is the moon and every one loves the Moon. Well.. You are a person who day dream a lot, you have very low-self confidence, you need back up for every move in your life, you are very much unpredictable. Means you do change according to time and circumstances, kind a selfish, have a very strong sense of musical, artistic talent, verbal communication.

Your attitudes are like the Moon, comes to gloom and fade away so everybody can expect changes in you. You can be a next Mahatma Gandhi who does peace love or you can be a Hitler who wants to destroy the man kind and peace (I mean in the community and your own home).

If you really have a deep thought about your own believe in God you can feel the difference which will make you stronger! Most of the time your words are a kind of would be happening true! So without any knowledge you can predict the situation. You will become poets, writers, any Artistic business people!

You are not strong in love, so you will be there and here till you get marry.. If U r a girl you will be a responsible woman in the whole family. If U r a man you will involve in fights & arguments in the family or Vice-versa. Means you will sacrifice your life for the goodness sake of Your family…You are gentle , intuitive with a broad vision, a power behind the scenes, well balanced People!!!

Your best match is 2 ,5 ,9 no other people can put up with you !!!

note: if you don’t share bad luck for 10 years it true please don’t ignore

Number 3

You are a person of hard hearted, selfish most of the times, religious, loves to climb up in your life. You always tend to have lots of problems within your family in the early stages but you will put up with everything.. You have the strong word power, pretty happy face.. So wherever you go always you have got what you wanted!!! And from the birth always wanted to work hard in order to achieve something.. You will not get anything without hardwork! When you reach a man/ woman age you want other younger once to listen to you because you want younger people to respect people older than them. You do set so many examples to others.

Generally you are not a cool person. It’s not easy thing dealing with you. A tough player you are! But once you like someone’s attitude then here you go, what can I say? It will be a lasting friendship. You always have respect from others.

Your life seems to have lots of worries and problems but sure they won’t be long.. you will always have brilliant kids!!! You love the money a bit too much so temptation will push you to endless trying and trying.. If you are a guy then it’s over. Looking after your family and help friends, so you will spend a life time just being generous and kind (except 21st born men). And number 3s you will
be such an example of how to be in the culture & life!!! If you are girl then you have good character and culture & hardworking attitude. You always follow.

You are a freedom lover, creative, ambition focused, a person who brings beauty , hope & joy to this world!!!

Your best match 6 ,9. Good match 1 ,3 ,5 !!!

note: if you don’t share bad luck for 10 years it true please don’t ignore

Number 4

You are very stubborn too, very hard working but unlucky in important matters in life, very cool, helpful, you have rough word power.. Might put lots of people away from you, you may cause nuisance to others if you are a man, and you often understands others and their problems well. If you are a girl you are very good with studies and arts. If you are a guy you spend most of the time after girl friends (almost) at times, you will have sort of too much fun life with mates & girls. Your friends will spend your time & money and get away with their life and you will become empty handed and don’t know what to do… So be careful!! You love to spend anyway!!!

Your good will is you are always there to help family and friends. Tell you what you people are little gem! s, specially the girls.. You always fall in love in younger age as well. You often live with disappointments, for an example you have got a degree in some thing… but you will be unemployed.. or will do very ordinary jobs.

But you will take care of your family very well…All you need to be careful of people who will take advantage of your kind heart. And beware of your relations too..

You are radical, patient, persistent,a bit old-fashioned, you live with foundation & order…

Your best Match 1, 8. Good match 5 ,6 , 7 !!!

note: if you don’t share bad luck for 10 years it true please don’t ignore

Number 5

You are very popular within the community, you can get things done by just chatting..to even enemies! You have a pretty good business mind, you are often have no-idea what is today is like, or tomorrow is like, you are a person who does anything when your head thinks “lets do this”. You will be famous if you open up a business, get involve in share dealings, music etc.. Very popular with sense of humor ,you are the one your friends and families will always ask for help, and you are the one actually get money on credit and help your friends. You will have more than 1 relationship, but when u get settle down you will be a bit selfish anyway. Because your other half will have a pretty good amount of control in you, be careful! You tend to go for other relationships! Contacts even you are married at times because of your popularity..

You are someone who get along with anyone because the number 5 is the middle number.. Changes & freedom lovers you are! You are an explorer with magic on your face. You learn your life through experience and it’s your best teacher!!!

Your best match 1 ,2 ,9. Good match 6 ,8 !!!

note: if you don’t share bad luck for 10 years it true please don’t ignore

Number 6

Ooopppss..you are born to enjoy.. You don’t care about others. I mean you are always want to enjoy your life time, you are a person.. You will be very good in either education or work wise or business management! You are talented, kind (but with only people who you think are nice), very beautiful girls and guys, popular and more than lucky with anything in your lives. All the goodness does come with you. Your mind and body is just made perfect for love.

You are lovable by any other numbers. But if you are a number 6 man, you will experience kind of looks from most girls and will involve in more than few relationships until you get married. If you are girl, most of you will get marry/engaged early. You are a caring person towards your family & friends .

If you miss the half-way mark then you are about to suffer physically and mentally. Generally you will lead a very good inner-home happiness with nothing short of. You are a person of compassion, comfort & fairness, domestic responsibility, good judgment, and after all you can heal this world wounds to make peace for every life because you have the great power of caring talent to make this world of love one step further…

Your best match 1, 6, 9. Good match 4, 5 !!!
note: if you don’t share bad luck for 10 years it true please don’t ignore

Number 7

You have got the attraction to anyone out there, you are realistic, very confident, happy, such a talented individual with your education, music, arts, singing, and most importantly acting too. You have real problems with bad temper! If you are a girl, you are popular with the subjects listed above.

You give up things for your parents. I mean you value your family status a lot, you will be in the top rank when you reach a certain age. If you are a guy you are popular with girls, you are a very talented too. Most of the number 7s face lots of problems with their marriage life.

Only a very few are happy. You have everything in your life, but still always number 7s have some sort of willfulness, such worries all their lifetime.

It’s probably the Lord given you all sort of over the standard humans talents and you are about to suffer in family life. So you need to get ready looking for a partner rather than waiting. If you don’t, then you might end-up single. So take care with this issue, ok?

You are wonderful, friendly, artistic, happy person.. You are born to contribute lots to this world!!!

Your best match is 2. Good matches are 1,4 !!!
note: if you don’t share bad luck for 10 years it true please don’t ignore

Number 8

You are a very strong personality, there’s no one out there will understand you. You are very good at pointing your finger at some thing and say “this is what”.
You are more likely to suffer from the early ages. I mean poverty. If your times are not good you might lose either of your parent and end up looking after your entire family. You often suffer all the way in life.

The problems will not allow you to study further, but you will learn the life in a very practical way. You are the one who will fight for justice and may die in the war too. You are normally very reserved with handful of friends and most of the time live life lonely and always prepared to help others.

Well. once you get married (which is often late) then your bad lucks will go away a bit and you! u become safe. You will face unexpected problems such as :
the error, government, poisonous animals, accidents.

You are some one with great discipline, persistence, courage, strength which will take you to success. You are a great part of a family team. You are a fighter!

Your Best match 1 ,4, 8. Good match 5 !!!
note: if you don’t share bad luck for 10 years it true please don’t ignore

Number 9

Hey…you guys are the incompatibles people in the world. You are so strong, physically and mentally… You are often have big-aims. You will work hard and hard to get there. Normally you suffer in the early age from family problems and generally you will have fighting life.. But when you achieve what you have done, it’s always a big task you have done! You are so much respected in the community, you are a person who can make a challenge and successfully finish the matter off.

You are very naughty in your younger age, often beaten up by your parents and involve in fights and you seemed to have lots of injuries in your life time. But when u grow you become calm and macho type.

Love is not an easy matter for you. You are good in engineering or banking jobs because people always trust you.

Your family life is very good, but will have worries over your children.

Your such qualities are humanitarian, patient, very wise & compassionate.

You are born to achieve targets and serve every one all equally without any prejudice.

You are totally a role model to anybody in the world for a great inspiration.

Your Best match 3, 5, 6, 9. Good match 2

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So glad God does not require a smartphone

A week of shopping has made me wonder: am I smart enough to buy a smartphone?
HTC, iOS, WWDC, S3, Samung, G-U-L-P. How many models are there? How many options can one brain process? Carriers, updates, data plans, and sizes…someone help me! 3G, 4G, LTE, GSM, HSPA+. NFC, GPS, PPI. Dual-core, quad-core. Five megapixels, eight megapixels. Android 4.1, Android 4.2. iOS 6, iOS 7. Q10, Z10. Google Play, iTunes, iCloud. Windows Phone 8 (or is it Windows 8 Phone?). BlackBerry . iPhone 5, iPhone 5S. Samsung Galaxy S3, Samsung Galaxy S4. HTC One. Nexus 4.
Leaves me longing for the day of wired telephones . Changes happen so fast these days, can anyone keep up? By one estimate, there are some 37,000 smartphones on the market today. That was a month ago. Odds are the number is now 38,000. Increasing at the rate of the national debt. Are you kidding me?
I am glad, really glad, that talking to God does not require a smartphone. Jesus taught us to begin our prayers by saying, “Our Father in heaven” (Mt. 6:9). More specifically, our “Abba in heaven.” Abba was an intimate, tender, folksy, pedestrian term, the warmest of the Aramaic words for “father.” Formality stripped away. Proximity promised. Jesus invites us to approach God like a child approaches Daddy. No special training required. No monthly plan needed.
Stunning, don’t you think, that the highest conversation in life requires nothing but an open heart and a “Dear Father?” How gracious of God to keep it simple.
Even more gracious of Him not to require a smartphone.

Marriage Proposal

At a table in a candle-lit restaurant, a man and woman were having dinner, and the following conversation ensued:

Man: Baby, I love you, would you please marry me?

Woman: (stands up and lands a
stinging slap on his face) I have
waited more than 9yrs, I have prayed, fasted, sowed seeds,
bought books and listened to tapes, even went out of my way to be nice to every male
specie of marriageable age! I took up new hobbies, watching
football and play station. I went
to Daystar, from Daystar, I went to House on the Rock, from House on the rock I went to Guiding Light Assembly, Phronesis Christian Centre int’l, MFM, Christ
Embassy, Redeemed, from there I went to This Present Winners looking everywhere for you. I went from a size 14 to a size
10, so that when you see me you’d love what you see.

I left Lagos, went to Abuja, from
Abuja I went to Port- Harcourt, then I went all the way to Kano I joined hi-five, from hi-five to Facebook, then I went to twitter, I even had a blog on which I ranted, hoping you would
show up! For where? I uploaded only my best pictures on Facebook, in fact I took photo sessions to look my best, all for
you o! I attended all the weddings, whether the invitation was direct or indirect! The next place I was hoping to
check was the moon, before you
crawled out, crawled out from
the house directly next to mine!

So it was you all this while? The
neighbour I said hello to every morning? Were you trying to
destroy my faith?
You almost rendered my prayer life useless?
What were you waiting for?
What sign where you looking for? Do you want to kill me before you reveal yourself?!!!
Now be a gentleman, get down on your knees and put that ring on my finger!!
The Guy replied, “April Fool.”



The Animal Magnetism

Are you one of those people for whom the day wouldn’t be quite right without discovering a little pet hair on your clothing when you get to work?  Does the pitter-patter of little feet continue even after the kids have gone off to college?  Do you swear you’re not going to get another pet, only to have one show up on your doorstep?

The human race’s affinity for animals is widespread and spans the centuries.  What most likely started out as a mutually beneficial relationship has evolved over the centuries.  Ancient Romans kept dogs and birds, as well as cats and horses, although they were likely working animals.  7th century Buddhist Monks raised goldfish in ponds and by the 14th century the Chinese were keeping them in bowls as pets.  By the mid-1800’s, as middle class society emerged, more people had the time and the money to keep animals purely as pets.1

According to the 2011-2012 APPA National Pet Owners Survey, 62% of U.S. households own a pet, which equates to 72.9 million homes, with more than 70 million dogs and more than 80 million cats among the mix.    Of course, there are some limits to pet “ownership” like home size, practicality and legal considerations.  You’re not likely to find a Siberian Tiger napping on your bed (unless you’re Siegfried or Roy) or a dolphin in your swimming pool.  Many of us have that little bit of fantasy in the back of our minds that we could somehow surround ourselves with all of the animals we have an affinity for.

There are a lot of historical, social and psychological reasons for our connection to animals, but the purpose here is to get you to look a little bit differently at your connection to specific creatures and what it might mean. What can we learn about ourselves from it?  For reasons that are on the spiritual side to some, and probably more on the psychological side to others, it is possible to discover a little bit more about ourselves and maybe about our path in life from these beings we are drawn to.

Start by just thinking about what particular animal you are MOST attracted to or have the strongest connection with.  It doesn’t have to be a domestic animal, though that is certainly allowed.  What’s your favorite animal; dog, a cat, fox, deer, dolphin, elephant, caribou?  Get yourself a piece of paper, or open up a text document on your computer and write or type the name of the animal.

Now without thinking too hard about it, start writing down words or traits that you associate with that animal.  Just whatever short bits come quickly to mind; like strength, wisdom, speed, leadership, power or that sort of thing. Think about how these traits might apply to you and your life.  Do you have more strength than you give yourself credit for?  Do others rely on your for your wisdom and leadership?  Often the qualities of the animals we are attracted to are qualities reflected in ourselves.

In a time of difficulty or struggle, think about this animal and the qualities that you admire.  You might even get a little crazy and imagine yourself AS that animal and feel those qualities in yourself.  Find in yourself the strength of a horse to power your way through a difficult task, or the cleverness of a fox to quickly think your way out of a tricky situation.

During a meditation or other quiet moment, visualize yourself in your favorite place in nature. Imagine that your animal appears to you and you are able to have a conversation with it. Ask what messages they may have for you, or simply chat with the being and find out what it has to say.

You can go even further into exploring yourself and your life by looking deeper into the meaning, mythology and lore of your chosen animal.  Research Native American mythology and learn about the crow’s connection to sacred law or the wolf as a teacher.  What did cats represent to the ancient Egyptians?  What element or god is it associated with?  How does it all relate to where you are in your life and where you’re heading?  Or where you’ve been?  You might be surprised!

Lastly, you take a look at other animals that might be associated with this animal.  Cats and mice?  Dogs and cats?  What does your animal eat if left to its own devices?  What might eat your animal?  Look for the interrelationships there and what those animals might mean to you in correlation with yours.  How does it relate to you and your life?  Are you a dog person who has a pesky cat annoying you somewhere in your life?  What is the solution to that?  (And no, it is NOT eat them!)

Sometimes when we find ourselves stuck in a rut in life, a little self-reflection can be a good thing.  Perhaps many things could be substituted for an animal and work in the same way, but given our natural affinity for them, it may simply come more naturally to work with an animal as a reference.  Many cultures place faith the in power of totem animals or animal guides and guardians.  Maybe the solution to some of modern society’s angst can be found in some old wisdom and an open mind.





Confession- True or False

My girlfriend and I had been dating for over a year, and so we decided to get married my parents helped us in every way, my friends encouraged me, and my girlfriend? She was a dream!

There was only one thing bothering me, very much indeed, and that one thing was her younger sister.
My prospective sister-in-law was twenty years of age, wore tight mini skirts and low cut blouse
s. She would regularly bend down when quite near me and I got many a pleasant view. It had to be deliberate. She never did it when she was near anyone else.

One day little sister called and asked me to come over to check the wedding invitations. She was alone when I arrived.
She whispered to me that soon I was to be married, and she had feelings and desires for me that she couldn’t overcome and didn’t really want to overcome. She told me that she wanted to make love to me just once before I got married and committed my life to her sister.

I was in total shock and couldn’t say a word.
She said, “I’m going upstairs to my bedroom, and if you want to go ahead with it just come up and get me.”

I was stunned. I was frozen in shock as I watched her go up the stairs. I stood there for a moment, then turned and went straight to the front door. I opened the door and stepped out of the house.

I walked straight towards my car to get a condom. My future father-in-law was standing outside. With tears in his eyes he hugged me and said,”We are very happy that you have passed our little test. We couldn’t ask for better man for our daughter. Welcome to the family.”

The moral of this story is: Always keep your condoms in your car.


Just sick of ladies calling all men dogs, and men calling all ladies hoes or sluts.

I’m really sick of all the men saying women are hoes, sluts and/or tramps. Newsflash, someone has to be sexing them and guess what, it’s us men. Then after doing so and finding out your homeboy or crew already hit, all of a sudden she is a hoe or slut. She wasn’t that when you were calling her whenever you wanted some. Oh yea men, when you being selfish and simply about getting yours, more times than not you didn’t even satisfy her, but yet you think you the man in bed. I’m willing to bet the biggest hoe you know or think you know has slept with less people than you, so what does that make you exactly? You men are so tired of hoes, well, blame your fellow males for continuing the trend giving attention, buying things, boosting egos and sexing these so called hoes, so don’t look for change because it’s not happening! Men: Do Better

The same way, I’m really sick of all the women saying men are dogs, players and no good. Newsflash, for each and every female that allows poor treatment, disrespectful behavior, any type of abuse, taking him back when cheating, etc, it is you who continues this cycle because you all are the ones allowing this to happen staying with a man who should be kicked to the curb. Quit telling yourself ‘but I love him’ and using it as an excuse or justification for his ignorant ways, poor treatment and inconsistent behavior. Have more love for yourself and lose the loser. If you don’t get rid of him, then blame yourself and all the other women unable to do so for not reading the writing on the wall when the signs are always there, thinking he is going to change or somehow you’re the one who he will change for because it’s not happening! Women: Do Better!